Could be worse? Fine? Alright? OK?
As good as that, hey?
There’s probably nothing massively wrong with your life, sure you’ve got the same every day complaints as everyone else, work sucks, the boss is a drag, you’ve got 1001 things you need to get done at home and no real inclination to do any of them, but that’s just how it is.
Sure, it’s kind of boring. It lacks excitement, and you’re not wildly happy, but at least you’re comfortable. You might describe this malaise as a “first world problem”.
The reason you feel this way is that you’re not fulfilling all of your needs – you may have heard of a guy called Maslow, he laid out a hierarchy of human needs, once you’ve met all of (or the majority) of needs on one level, you are satisfied, but soon that satisfaction is diminished as your needs increase up the hierarchy.
If you’re reading this blog, it’s safe to say that you physiological needs are being met. You’re breathing, you have access to food and water and generally you’re sleeping alright (this is why sleep disorders are so damaging to overall wellbeing).
I think that it’s also very likely that all of your needs around safety are being met. You’ve got somewhere to live, you’ve got some money coming in and you’re reasonably healthy. Have you noticed that when people lose their health or their source of income they stop worrying about all the minutiae of life? That’s because they have fallen back down the ladder and it’s more important for them to get to a place where these needs are met – maybe you’ve been there before, once you start back up the ladder the satisfaction doesn’t last long term.
Once these two groups of needs are met, you are generally comfortable. You could get by. The problem is you have evolved to want more than this, and a lot of it requires some work. It requires you to get out of your comfort zone and start taking some action.
Taking action requires a lot of energy to get started, especially if you are already comfortable.
If you got made redundant tomorrow you’d be straight out to look for another job, you might even try and find something that gives you more satisfaction than the job you do now, then you’d look back and tell everyone how being made redundant was the best thing that happened to you. Until that happens you’ll probably just whine about how much your job sucks, and you’ll get up each morning feeling drained by the whole thing.
You don’t have to wait for a crisis to start being more satisfied with your life. You could decide that this boredom is reason enough to get off your arse and make some changes.
If you’re feeling any motivation to make a change, get started quickly, do something right this second to get the ball rolling. Research suggests that if you don’t take action on an impulse within 5 seconds you probably never will. So, make a note, send a text or start doing some research right now.
Anxiety affects everyone in different ways. Whether its general anxiety, phobias, addictions, habits, weight issues or anything else you do it your own way. So, it stands to reason that the solution should be as individual as you are. I use a range of techniques, such as Hypnosis/Hypnotherapy, Life Coaching, EFT, Reiki and many other tools I’ve picked up along the way to work with YOU to find the best fit. We can work online from the comfort of your own home, or you can arrange to come to my private therapy room near Carlisle, Cumbria.