It’s a grey early September morning, and I’m sat in my dressing gown with a cup of tea watching a crowd of people running the city’s first half marathon outside my window. (Not all 13.1 miles of it is outside my window, but the finish line is!)
My first thought – “I could never do that.”
Wow! What a way to let myself off the hook of putting in the effort, training and determination it takes to complete a physical feat.
The truth is, I don’t currently want to put in the effort and training it would require to do a half marathon, I like to spend my time and energy on other things and that’s fine. What’s not fine is writing myself off with an easy lie that I’m not capable.
I lie to myself about this all the time and I hear the same lie from other people. I can’t give up carbs. I can’t climb that mountain. I can’t learn a language. I can’t quit smoking.
There is evidence to the contrary all around you, other people are out there doing these things and if you really wanted to, so could you.
The great Stoic leader, Marcus Aurelius said, “If something is possible for humans believe it is possible also for you.”
The people that can do these things are not special, or super human – they are normal people who are prepared to make the sacrifices and commitments needed to achieve that thing you are currently telling yourself you cannot do. Whether that is climbing Everest or getting to work for 9am Monday-Friday.
It’s time to stop saying that you can’t. You can.
Don’t put this down to simple semantics, if you keep saying you’re not capable, you will start to believe it and believe me when I tell you, if I hear you, I will call you out on it. Do not underestimate how important it is which words you use when you are talking to yourself.
Be honest with yourself. If you really wanted to do that thing you are telling me you can’t do, you’d find a way to do it.
If you really do want it – it’s time to knuckle down and start paying your way in terms of effort and determination. If you want someone to hold you accountable, keep you motivated and help you stay on track with whatever you goal is right now, a Coach is great idea.