When you have a goal you really want to achieve it’s very easy to get frustrated that you’re not there yet. As much as I would like to be the Zen Master at managing my own emotions and frustrations, it turns out I’m not.
My ultimate aim at the moment is to take my Life Coaching and Hypnosis business from a part time side venture to my main source of income. If I take a step back and look at things objectively, I’m doing pretty well. I have a steady trickle of clients coming in, they are getting great outcomes and I am getting brilliant feedback. I have cut back the hours that I do in my “day job” and that extra time is filling up nicely and (mostly!) productively. It’s really exciting and I’d love to make the jump to doing that full time.
Luckily, but much to my frustration, I have friends and family around me reminding me about certain responsibilities, such as bills and mortgages that need paid and the fact that I have grown accustomed to a certain aspects of my lifestyle, such as lovely holidays, that my current level of income affords me. They probably (ok, definitely) have not received the thanks from me that they deserve for these reminders. I’m not immune from an internal foot stomp and minor temper tantrum at this point.
So I have decided to do what I would tell someone else to do and enjoy the journey. Instead of thinking about how I have to go to work I will focus on all the great things I get to do when I’m there. I get to work with some really lovely people. I get to have fun with my colleagues and customers. I get to help people and make life just a little easier for them. I get to chat to and learn about lots of different people every day.
Instead of being frustrated that I’m not where I want to be yet, I’ll be excited about all the cool milestones I’ve still got to pass and the lessons I’ve still got ahead of me and be happy about how well I’m progressing. I’ll be grateful about the stability and excitement straddling both lives is giving me.
I’m sure that there will be at least one area of your life where you feel (or have felt) exactly like this. Maybe a fitness or weight-loss goal, moving on in education or in your career, waiting to move house are a couple of things that spring to mind. You’re likely to be in a similar situation again and I hope when you are you remember to loosen your grip on what you so desperately want, enjoy what it happening in the present moment, and love the journey just how it is. You know, a Life Coach could be the perfect person to help you make the plans you need to get you where you want to go, and I might just know one.