My first entry on this blog was a post “what is happy?” Last week I attended a fab little workshop ran by Amanda Green where we spent time looking at some character traits of happiness and I feel like they fit.
Positive psychologists have been doing research on it, and it seems that these character traits encompass most of what it takes to be happy. Of course, this is just opinion and current thinking, rather than a definitive answer – but as with anything, when choosing what to believe, I think “Is it helpful?” is the most important question to ask – and in this case I think the answer is a resounding Yes!
As you read through the traits of happiness, consider which you naturally enjoy in your life, and which you could do with giving a little boost to. It’s going to be different for all of us at different times of course, and we don’t need to be rocking them all 100% to feel great.
Zest is all about excitement and enthusiasm. It’s get up and go, having a little pep in your step.
If you’re feeling anything but zesty, the trick is to bring some physical activity that you love into your life. Rather than heading to the gym, why not break the swingball set out and have a laugh? A little bit of something like that every day will give your zest levels a boost.
Hope is sometimes the only thing that keeps us going through rough times. Hope for a future.
If you’re currently feeling a little low on the hope side, try writing down what you’d like your future to be like. Having a goal to aim towards, even if you ultimately end up on a different path, gives you some much needed forward momentum.
Gratitude has such a massive impact. It’s so easy to focus on the few things you want but haven’t got, and to lose focus on all the great things you have already. Practicing gratitude serves as a great reminder. Sharing gratitude with those around you also gives them a boost, which ripples out to many others.
If you’re finding it tricky to see what you’ve got to be grateful for at the moment, start by writing 3 things a day – however small they are. The more you do it the easier it gets.
Curiosity brings new direction and enjoyment into our lives. Wondering what the future holds, learning about things you hadn’t considered, and even being curious about ourselves and our emotions.
If you’re feeling stuck in a rut and haven’t come across anything new in a while, here’s a challenge. Get on Netflix and watch a documentary about something you know nothing about. Maybe it’ll lead you to a new passion, or maybe you’ll just learn an interesting fact to impress people with.
Love is all about the relationships and bonds we have with others and with ourselves.
Last week I wrote about love languages, if you missed it go back and have a look. Loving yourself is a big part of being able to give and receive love from others. Whatever your love language is, turn it on yourself and show yourself some love.
Cultivating happiness is an active and worthwhile pursuit – it’s unlikely to come to you, you need to get out and work for it – little by little. It doesn’t need to take much, but you do need to make a start.
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