There are a few steps to successful change, throughout September I’m going to be focusing on them in a bit more detail. But if you are raring to go with making changes, the basic steps are as follows:
Recognise where you are now.
Decide where you want to be.
Figure out the actions you could take to get you closer.
Do it. (and keep doing with necessary reviews and adjustments as you go.)
Recognise where you are now.
This first step is one that is often skipped in the journey to change – mainly because it can be uncomfortable.
It’s uncomfortable because we have to admit that something isn’t working for us. Once we’ve acknowledged that it is much harder to pretend we are still OK with it and we’re going to have some hard work to put in. Let’s face it, sometimes we’d rather just not.
The other reason it’s uncomfortable is because it’s much easier to blame other people and outside sources for reasons we are unsatisfied and in order to make change happen we are going to have to take our side of the responsibility.
The truth will set you free – but first it will piss you off.
It’s not all that much fun to look in the (actual or metaphorical) mirror and acknowledge that we are the main thing stopping us being where we want to be.
If you think of change as a journey, you’re not going to be able to get to your desired destination if you don’t know where you are starting from.
What are you working with?
Don’t just think of all the ways you want things to be different, think about the things you are grateful for that you want to stay the same. It’s really easy to feel like the one thing we want to change is the only important thing in our lives, but it isn’t. We can easily forget that we have loads of other great things about ourselves and our lives because the focus is all on this one thing that we wish where different.
Think about the skills and resources you already have that will help you on your way. This is like taking an itinerary or your supplies before packing. It’ll make the process of figuring out what action to take later much easier.
In order to change, there are going to be some beliefs and behaviours you are going to have to let go of – what are they? What benefit have they brought to you? (and there will be some otherwise you wouldn’t be doing them!) and are you ready to let them go?
Anxiety affects everyone in different ways. Whether its general anxiety, phobias, addictions, habits, weight issues or anything else you do it your own way. So, it stands to reason that the solution should be as individual as you are. I use a range of techniques, such as Hypnosis/Hypnotherapy, Life Coaching, EFT, Reiki and many other tools I’ve picked up along the way to work with YOU to find the best fit. We can work online from the comfort of your own home, or you can arrange to come to my private therapy room near Carlisle, Cumbria.