There are a few steps to successful change, throughout September I’m going to be focusing on them in a bit you can click on the links below to catch up if you’ve missed previous steps:
Do it. (and keep doing with necessary reviews and adjustments as you go.)
If you’ve been reading these posts in order, you should already know where you are coming from, where you are going and have a good idea about how you are going to get there.
Now comes the final step.
In the words of Nike.
Just Do It.
I know, I know! It’s easier said than done. The key is to keep the actions small but consistent. I’ve found that if I have to put aside a large amount of time or energy to get something done, I’ll find reasons not to do it.
You need to make it something that is un-fail-able. If, for example, your goal was to write a book, that’s a big task and you’d have to clear a lot of time out of your schedule to do it in a one-r. Also, you are likely to never feel like starting. But committing to writing 200 words a day, without fail, doesn’t seem so bad. For example, I have written more than 200 words already and it’s only taken me a few minutes. And I’m on a roll now, so I’ll keep going.
I saw a quote the other day (which I now can’t find, so I don’t know who said it) that said, if something is worth doing, it’s worth doing badly. Meaning, that even if you only do 5 minutes of exercise, or read 1 page, or respond to 1 e-mail, it’s worth doing it, because it will get you a little bit closer. Any amount of progress is better than no progress.
I bang on about it fairly often – small consistent action is the route to making a successful change in any area of your life. Making a big leap is all fine and well if you keep momentum going, but if you only ever do the one big leap you’re not going to get far in the long run.
It’s also important to note that many actions don’t get short term results, or don’t get results until you are a little more practiced at it – so whatever you decide is the right action to take, give it a good go. Part of your plan of action should include a time scale to review each action and make adjustments. Once you’re committed to that time, stick with it – unless any obvious flaws come up and adjustment is needed sooner.
It’s at this point where change often falls off course.
The novelty of doing something new wears off and it feels more comfortable to lapse back into old patterns. Creating change, or success (they are very much the same thing) is actually a boring process. You’ll have cheerleaders and well-wishers at the beginning, and perhaps people will celebrate with you at the finish line, but the journey in the middle is usually pretty quiet.
You just need to remember where you are heading and why. Keep a track of how far you’ve come. Record the highlights of the trip and continue to put one foot in front of the other.
I wish you luck, and I’ll be here if you need me.
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